Have you ever had someone in your life that was just not good for you? We all have I’m sure.
Yesterday I was thinking of one person in particular. She popped into my mind and I immediately felt a sense of comfort knowing that I no longer have to deal with her. It reminded me of this quote by Sun-tzu: Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. Which is how I felt I had to interact with her. It wasn’t always that bad but at times pretty close!
She was the type of person that if you pissed her off she threatened to make your life miserable. Correction: It wasn’t if you pissed her off it was if you didn’t do what she wanted you to do. There would be times that I would sometimes learn that she would be speaking for or about me and although some of the things may have been true they were always exaggerated. We were once colleagues and I remember feeling relieved so often that she wasn’t a supervisor of mine. Although if there was a public event she was the type of person that acted as if everyone worked for her. You know the type!
At times I wish I had been a stronger person. I wish that I was able to tell her just what I thought and that I could do what was best for me as a person but you know how it is in the workplace. Sometimes you just don’t have a choice. I remember the first Monday morning that she was no longer there. It was a renewed environment!
Think of the toxic people in your world today. If you can’t help them or get them out of your life then try to do a little something to separate yourself a bit. Do something for you.
Wow! Great post!
Thank you! And thanks for taking the time to comment!
Yay! Good for you. It is very hard to remove toxic people from our lives. I am glad for you.
I actually didn’t do anything. It just happened but my life became a bit less stressful when it did and it was such a good feeling!
Great post! Everyone should read and remember this!
Thank you, Shell!
Wow, it sounds like she wasn’t a very nice person. I know sometimes we feel better when we just rid our lives of people like that, but I think that it is best to pray for them.
Thank you for pointing that out, Cascia. I will say she was the type of person who really wouldn’t listen to others very well. Even when you were trying to help. I always hoped (and continue to) that she would change. Everyone deserves a great life and if she did change not only would life improve for others but for her as well.
I think I’ve met this person you are talking about. lol. The bad thing is, it wouldn’t matter if you stood up to them or not because in their eyes, YOU would be the big meanie and not them. I have had several toxic people in my life. Not always mean people, but people who bring me down or drag me into their drama. I’m dealing with some of that now. The problem is… it’s my family. Can’t really avoid them! So, I am just trying to stay as neutral about things as possible. Which is hard for me because I am a fixer. I can’t have things messy. But, I can’t FIX this situation. I can’t change poor decision making happening in others lives. I’m working on it. I’ll get there. Thanks for the post!
Jessica
Walking the Land
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I hate it when it is a family member, Jessica. It’s so difficult to deal with sometimes. Thanks for commenting – hope your week is going well!
Again, could not agree with you more. Toxic relationships breed bad energy, I have seen the amazing transformation that can happen from ending a bad relationship. It is one of the hardest things to do but ever so neccessary. Good for you.
You are right! It can be an amazing transformation! And I agree. Sometimes it is just completely necessary.