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I quoted Meg Ryan from one of her movies here at aplaceforthoughts.com once before. And I’m about to do it again. 
 
The other day Kate & Leopold starring Meg Ryan and Hugh Jackman was on television and I caught about 20 minutes of it. I watched it once before a couple of years ago and while watching the other day it reminded me that there was a part of the movie that really moved me the first time I saw it. So I decided to look up quotes from the movie to see if I was able to remember what it was. It didn’t take long to find what I was looking for…
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Kate: …it’s a great thing to get what you want. It’s a really good thing unless what you thought you wanted wasn’t really what you wanted… because what you really wanted you couldn’t imagine or you didn’t think it was possible but what if someone came along who knew exactly what you wanted without asking they just knew… like they could hear your heart beating or listen to your thoughts and what if they were sure of themselves and they didn’t have to take a poll and they loved you… 
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For me this was a get up and grab the kleenex kind of moment. The part that really struck me was …because what you really wanted you couldn’t imagine or you didn’t think it was possible…
 
Throughout life I have often allowed fear to control decisions that I’ve made. There have been times where what I’ve really wanted seemed so far out of reach or impossible. Or that even if it was possible that it would or could just easily slip away.
 
But you know what? It is possible.
 
And then there is this portion of the above quote:
 
…but what if someone came along who knew exactly what you wanted without asking they just knew… like they could hear your heart beating or listen to your thoughts and what if they were sure of themselves and they didn’t have to take a poll and they loved you…
 
Have you ever had this happen? It can be terrifying and completely lovely all at the same time. Some of us don’t get to experience this type of love, some of us do and it’s taken from us quickly, some of us have the luxury of living this type of love each and every day, some of us have a glimpse of it and the fear of the love leaving us or not being real controls how much we allow ourselves to let it into our lives.
 
But I’m going to say it again. It is possible. Have hope. Allow yourself the joy of being loved. Recognize that if this type of love is there that you are blessed. Not everyone experiences this. We only live once. Embrace it. It isn’t too late. It’s never too late. Believe.

Good Morning

I just wanted to send out a hello this morning. I’ve been missing for far too long and I do hope that changes soon. There are some things that I’d like to write about.

For those of you who don’t know I welcomed a healthy little boy into this world ten days ago and both baby and mom are still adjusting. If you have a moment let me know how you are doing by leaving a comment. I’d love to hear an update from everyone!

Always kiss your children goodnight – even if they’re already asleep. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Giving Thanks

I just thought I’d post something simple for tonight. Tomorrow is already Thanksgiving and I just can’t believe it. It seems as if it was just August.

During this time of thanks I thought it would be nice if we could all share something we are feeling grateful for. So whether you are reading this tonight, tomorrow or in two weeks feel free to share something that you are currently feeling gratitude towards.

At this moment I am grateful for the random hug my little guy gave me while we were reading books this afternoon. I am also thankful to know that those dear to me are safe and warm in their homes.

Wishing you and yours a Thanksgiving full of peace and hope.

Nothing is more honorable than a grateful heart. ~Seneca

Sacrificing You

At different times during my life I have often thought about the sacrifices my father made as a parent — especially early on as a widower.  Things that he put on hold because all of a sudden two little ones had only him to count on. Not only was he still learning how to be a father, but he had to learn how to be a mother as well.

I’ve thought about it even more ever since I became a mom, especially when I was facing something difficult. And it came up again recently while talking to someone completely dear to me. We have to do a) or b) for the sake of our children.

Can I just ask – where do you get your strength? When you are dealing with something life altering, something that is a key component to your heart and soul, how do you do this without it affecting your children?

How do you feed them, play with them, read to them without them knowing your heart is hurting for some reason or other? Is it even possible? Is it something you manage to push aside until the hours of the night when your little one is nestled in bed? Do you worry that they can sense something? Where do you find the strength to sacrifice something that your heart needs to deal with for a more appropriate time?

I guess this is one of those things that you learn while going through it but I thought that this would be the perfect place to bring up this topic. And it could also be a good reminder that although we have to be strong for our little ones it is also okay and necessary to take care of ourselves. I found the below quote yesterday and it brought me a sense of peace while thinking of these things that are on my mind. You can almost feel the hope in it, can’t you?

Where there is great love, there are always miracles. ~Willa Cather

Thoughts of Value

Have you ever been in a place where you were trying to put your entire heart into words? You finally get your thoughts and feelings organized to the point where you think you’ve done a fairly decent job of trying to captivate just what you needed to relay. This wasn’t an easy process. It kept you up at night and forced you to feel the weight so strongly that the vulnerability of it all was completely overwhelming. And then it happens.

All of a sudden you come to the realization that none of it really matters.

Now what? How do you put your heart back in place. What can you use to tuck it safely so that it doesn’t feel as if the beating of it is a train going in circles barely on track?

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. ~Malcolm S. Forbes

I found this quote the other day and it made me think about a few things. Those exact thoughts have disappeared by now but I still wanted to share it here. I feel that it works on some level with this entry. I know that I have overvalued something that I am not or that I have overvalued something that didn’t need to be. I also know that I have certainly undervalued beautiful pieces of me.

In an effort to try to safely tuck my heart into place I decided to remind myself of some qualities I possess.

I am thoughtful, caring, dedicated, and loving.

I am giving, compassionate, hopeful and reflective.

I am reliable, sensitive, and heart warming.

I’m not always courageous but am at times and although I am weak, I am also strong.

I am patient, quiet, gracious and nurturing.

I am a dreamer.

October 15th

Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. I know I wrote about this date earlier in the year in this post. I just wanted to take a minute to honor the little ones gone too soon and to remind all of you who have experienced a loss that you are in my thoughts.

In just a few minutes it will be 7pm and I’ll be lighting a candle in honor of all the little ones gone too soon. If you’d like to talk about your angel feel free to tell us about them in a comment or feel free to go to the submit your story page and I can share your story as a submission.

An angel in the book of life wrote down my baby’s birth. Then whispered as she closed the book “too beautiful for earth.” ~Author Unknown

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