“Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner.” ~Max Lucado
I read this quote by Max Lucado last week and it spoke to me. I immediately jotted it down on a sticky note and it has been in front of my computer screen ever since. When it comes to forgiving, whether it be having to forgive someone else or yourself, how do you do it? Does it come naturally to you? Or do you struggle with it? I’m sure it depends on the situation but I’m asking in general. (If you’d like to be more specific, please do share!)
For the most part I would like to think that I’m good at forgiving others. But when I think of situations that caused me great suffering I start to realize that maybe I just don’t always know how to forgive. Or perhaps it’s letting go. Maybe that is the bigger issue for me. But don’t they go hand in hand? Just knowing how much they weigh on me makes me recognize just how true the above quote is! Thinking of two difficult situations that still consume me I realize that part of my not letting go is probably because of the fear of being hurt by the same situation again and again.
When you think of forgiveness what do you think? Is it something that you tie mostly to your religion, your upbringing or to something else? Some consider forgiveness to be an act or a decision. Do you try to teach others how to forgive? Perhaps your children, a friend, or a family member dealing with a difficult situation? How do you go about doing so?
Today, if there is something weighing on your mind, try to let go. I’m not always sure how to do so but I’d suggest to start by doing something that helps you to relax. Go for a walk, have a cup of tea, read a book, write your thoughts down, call someone who lifts your soul just by saying hello. Allow your heart time to heal and let go. Forgive. Unlock that door. Free yourself.